How to Embrace Chaos and Create more Space and Flow in your Life

My life can be very chaotic – a teenager, 4 primary school children, a 4 year old still at home, my business, my husband and extremely high expectations of myself. Sometimes I flow easily with it and sometimes it drains me. I’ve noticed that when I get stuck in rushing and always thinking ahead, I feel extremely anxious and not present at all, I don’t enjoy my time and everything is overwhelming and ‘chaotic’.

When I have an overview of my day in the morning and I pace myself, I am able to flow easily with my day, be present with what I’m doing and who I’m with which helps me to get perspective, get on top of things and the chaotic energy instantly dissolves into a cruising type of calm flow.    Once you embrace chaos it is no longer chaotic. There’s no longer disorder, disarray and confusion. There is just you holding the space for your family to live in a freedom of expression and creativity, development and connection.

I know there are so many blogs with great tips and inspiring stories, but they don’t often paint the whole picture. Many women feel that they are the only ones struggling in the constant pursuit of perfection. If this is you, you are certainly not alone. Most women I work with seem to come to this point at some time in their life, especially in motherhood. So, let’s let go of perfection, embrace the chaos and get on top of the important things in your life. Your whole being will sigh in relief.

When you learn to embrace chaos – that is, flow with life instead of fighting it – there are many beautiful and beneficial outcomes for you personally and for your family. You will be modelling and nurturing much desired qualities in your children that will contribute greatly to their life.   I’m talking real life skills of flowing with change, enjoying the moment, resilience, independence and responsibility to mention just a few.

Here are some ways to help you embrace the chaos and move from chaotic to freedom.

  1. Reduce clutter, it gets in the way of real creativity and effects our mood and makes life unnecessarily difficult.   Reducing clutter will give you more space for beneficial “chaos” (start by chucking out broken toys, unmatched Tupperware and clothes you’ve held onto but you don’t like!)
  2. Have a morning routine that gives you a chance to clear your mind and focus your energy for the day.
  3. Schedule your week with daily priorities which allow for the unexpected. (Eg Tuesday is housework for me, I primarily focus is on housework on Tuesdays)
  4. Pace yourself. Don’t over schedule your week. Learn to say no and focus on your priorities, especially while you are ‘recuperating’ from all this busy-ness and creating a new lifestyle for you and your family.
  5. Instead of always ‘entertaining’ your kids with adult controlled activities, allow your children more free play (you will need to turn off the electronics for them to do this). They will learn to ‘entertain’ themselves through creativity, inspiration and problem solving…. All qualities we want to nurture in our children.   They will want to get involved in the family. You can find some common interests and ways to integrate their needs with what you need to do each day.


Jada Pinkett Smith is a mother that I highly admire. I love her approach to life and motherhood. She says,

“It’s not about what you tell your children, but how you show them how to live life.”

So when you give yourself permission to slow down and create time to sort things out by saying no and pacing your schedule, you will feel you can breathe again, you will come more into the moment and find more joy in the small things as well as the big things.

If you would like me to help you discover your priorities and get a plan going to embrace the chaos and create a lifestyle that nurtures you and your family, that gives you control back in your life and helps you to be the best mum very for your kids, book a free 30 minute phone Clarity Session here

Tara x

P.s you can also join our Free Group Clarity Session here to keep the good vibes going!