My life can be very chaotic – two teenagers, three primary school children, my business, husband and extremely high expectations of myself. Sometimes I flow easily with it and sometimes it drains me. I’ve noticed that when I get stuck in rushing and always thinking ahead, I feel extremely anxious and not present at all, I don’t enjoy my time and everything is overwhelming and ‘chaotic’.
When I use my morning routine to start my morning off on the right foot I can pace myself and flow easily with my day. It gives me the opportunity to be present with what I’m doing and who I’m with. This helps me to get perspective and get on top of things. The chaotic energy instantly dissolves into a cruising flow of calm. Once you embrace chaos it is no longer chaotic. There’s no longer disorder, disarray and confusion. There is just you holding the space for your family to live in the freedom of expression, creativity, development and connection.
There are lots of blogs with great tips and inspiring stories. But because details of daily struggles are missing some women may feel that they are the only ones not coping. If this is you, you are certainly not alone. Most women I work with seem to come to this point at some time in their life, especially in motherhood. So, let’s let go of perfection, embrace the chaos and get on top of the important things in your life. Your whole being will sigh in relief.
When you learn to embrace chaos or to flow with life instead of fighting it. There are many beautiful and beneficial outcomes for you and for your family. You will be creating and nurturing many desired qualities in your children that will contribute greatly to their life.
I’m talking real-life skills of flowing with change, enjoying the moment, resilience, independence and responsibility to mention just a few.
Here are some ways to help you embrace the chaos and move from chaotic to freedom.
- Reduce clutter, it gets in the way of real creativity and affects our mood and makes life unnecessarily difficult. Reducing clutter will give you more space for beneficial “chaos”. Kick start the process by chucking out broken toys, unmatched Tupperware and clothes you’ve held onto but you don’t like!
- Have a morning routine that gives you a chance to clear your mind and focus your energy on the day.
- Schedule your week with daily priorities which allow for the unexpected. For example, Tuesday is housework for me and I primarily focus on housework on Tuesdays.
- Pace yourself. Don’t over-schedule your week. Learn to say no and focus on your priorities, especially while you are ‘recuperating’ from all this busy-ness and creating a new lifestyle for you and your family.
- Instead of always ‘entertaining’ your kids with adult controlled activities, allow your children more free play. Start by turning off electronics. This allows them to learn to ‘entertain’ themselves through creativity, inspiration and problem-solving…. All qualities we want to nurture in our children. They’ll be inspired to participate in the family. Find ways to integrate your child’s interests with what you need to do each day.
Jada Pinkett Smith is a mother that I highly admire. I love her approach to life and motherhood. She says, “It’s not about what you tell your children, but how you show them how to live life.”
Give yourself permission to slow down and create time to sort things out by saying no and pacing your schedule. This space will let you breathe again. You’ll discover the moment and find more joy in the small and big things in your life,
If you would like to create a plan to discover your priorities and embrace the chaos to create a lifestyle that nurtures you and your family. Head to our Empowering Motherhood Facebook group where you’ll find the tools to take control of your life. So that you can be the best mum for your kids.